Lover to Stranger
Spending 3 years, including 1 full year staying together like a married couple, can be blissfull. Especially as typical women, it's extremely normal they love to give and satisfy their men in every way.; Cook for them, Wash for them, Waking up early in the morning to prepare take-away, listening to them, cleaning for them, buying them gifts for many occassions including many occassions without reasons (just an expression of love), stick to them and stay faithful and loyal.
The worst thing a woman can do (in which many people I knew including myself), even when they knew their men cheating on them, you pretend not knowing them though you did probed a little bit, without further pushing or clarifications, you continue to act as if nothing happen. That's pretty bad and they claimed them as "because I love him way too much". But... how about themselves? When misunderstanding happened, they let their men to accuse them and trying not to let things gone worst, some even admit their mistakes when they don't even make any mistakes. So what happened in the end? Things got worst and things ended up with way too much understanding... and bad ending often makes either party grows bitter towards each other.
The questions are; how much you understand about the other party, especially knowing what the other party , being a woman staying beside you all those while and all those years? how important your partner is, you want to salvage the relationship?Or you put yourself first? And the saddest thing is... Being together for many years staying together... where they were used to be so closed, isn't sad when one day, they just walk past each other, pretending they have never seen each other before? This is saddening to know that once a couple who used to love each other so much, went through ups and downs and many years of building the faith in each other, have to end in the bad way.
I knew myself way too well, that being together... to me is a gift from above that brought a man and a woman together, loving each other, believing each other and keeping the promises. To me, being able to stay together is something very sacred and not a joke to me. 'Cause to find love, who love you as much as you do to him; who is willing to sacrifice her world for him, is not easy.
In this new era, is it so hard not to take each other for granted? Is it too many of the choices that they just take the one beside them for granted? I don't know... I can never understand this part cause i knew and I know, once I love, I will give my all.... All the way....
Just recently, a good friend of mine, have lost his loved one, suddenly when they were only married for a while. This makes me even more puzzled for some of those who, once lost their loved one, yet they still has not yet learned how to treasure the one they love so much and they themselves well aware that they too, were very much being loved. I still don't understand... 'Cause even though, I've lost my loved one, once, though the matter was not as serious... yet I already understood the meaning of "treasure".
There are too many things I don't know how to describe. But I know that it's painful enough... to know that nowadays, people in love, yet they took the word "love" lightly. Even the certificate of marriage is no longer as sacred as before... Even the words "making love" is verbally , overly-abused. It's becoming into a just-another regimes of sweet talking and temporarily captivating.Is it very usual for men and women nowadays... that treasuring each other is just a beginning... or a smoke screen I called it and after awhile, they will just pushed it aside and happily forgotten all about it. If only the people in this world, understand... or should i say if only people in this era understand how the people in olden days are treasuring their love ones as if there are no one else for them to choose, unlike nowadays with countless of choices of opposite genders to choose from.... Or is it me, who still stay behind time... I am completely clueless...
Love,
Leo
The worst thing a woman can do (in which many people I knew including myself), even when they knew their men cheating on them, you pretend not knowing them though you did probed a little bit, without further pushing or clarifications, you continue to act as if nothing happen. That's pretty bad and they claimed them as "because I love him way too much". But... how about themselves? When misunderstanding happened, they let their men to accuse them and trying not to let things gone worst, some even admit their mistakes when they don't even make any mistakes. So what happened in the end? Things got worst and things ended up with way too much understanding... and bad ending often makes either party grows bitter towards each other.
The questions are; how much you understand about the other party, especially knowing what the other party , being a woman staying beside you all those while and all those years? how important your partner is, you want to salvage the relationship?Or you put yourself first? And the saddest thing is... Being together for many years staying together... where they were used to be so closed, isn't sad when one day, they just walk past each other, pretending they have never seen each other before? This is saddening to know that once a couple who used to love each other so much, went through ups and downs and many years of building the faith in each other, have to end in the bad way.
I knew myself way too well, that being together... to me is a gift from above that brought a man and a woman together, loving each other, believing each other and keeping the promises. To me, being able to stay together is something very sacred and not a joke to me. 'Cause to find love, who love you as much as you do to him; who is willing to sacrifice her world for him, is not easy.
In this new era, is it so hard not to take each other for granted? Is it too many of the choices that they just take the one beside them for granted? I don't know... I can never understand this part cause i knew and I know, once I love, I will give my all.... All the way....
Just recently, a good friend of mine, have lost his loved one, suddenly when they were only married for a while. This makes me even more puzzled for some of those who, once lost their loved one, yet they still has not yet learned how to treasure the one they love so much and they themselves well aware that they too, were very much being loved. I still don't understand... 'Cause even though, I've lost my loved one, once, though the matter was not as serious... yet I already understood the meaning of "treasure".
There are too many things I don't know how to describe. But I know that it's painful enough... to know that nowadays, people in love, yet they took the word "love" lightly. Even the certificate of marriage is no longer as sacred as before... Even the words "making love" is verbally , overly-abused. It's becoming into a just-another regimes of sweet talking and temporarily captivating.Is it very usual for men and women nowadays... that treasuring each other is just a beginning... or a smoke screen I called it and after awhile, they will just pushed it aside and happily forgotten all about it. If only the people in this world, understand... or should i say if only people in this era understand how the people in olden days are treasuring their love ones as if there are no one else for them to choose, unlike nowadays with countless of choices of opposite genders to choose from.... Or is it me, who still stay behind time... I am completely clueless...
Love,
Leo
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